Survivor

From victim to survivor to winner



Switching the word from victim to survivor was huge for me. When I heard other women tell their story and parts of mine, sometimes I hear domestic violence victims or survivors of domestic violence.  I refused to be called a victim and anyone else in that situation. Just hearing that word made me cringe because deep down I knew that’s what I was.  I thought the way to earn love was by going overboard and taking care of everyone else but me.  I couldn’t understand why they still didn’t love and appreciate me and for many years I was stuck in victim mode.


I wasn’t ready for the transformation from victim to survivor until I finally decided and committed to leaving Damian’s dad. I had to take accountability for my messes and clean them up. I had to get myself and my life together. I had to stop blaming him and the world. I was feeling feelings but was in denial about my part in the situation because I was an angel for pleasing others but really,  I was toxic myself. In survival mode, I thought I had to fight my way through life and be bitchy or mean for people to hear me, see me or even acknowledge me. I felt like a new woman but it still wasn’t it. I was just making sure that me and my son were staying safe and did what I needed.


Two toxic parents is not good for a very young child and I knew I had to leave as hard as it was. I knew that Damian had been through enough stress and I had to protect him. I even went to school for child development.  More than ever, Damian needed me to remember who I was:I was a child of God, I was an amazing first time mom still figuring stuff out.  Thankfully and gratefully I found people that loved me before I loved myself and I could finally start giving myself grace and being better than I was the day before.


Damian’s Dad had to take care of himself and figure out his stuff on his own.  At the time it was super tough to leave because I didn’t want my son to come from a broken home. I was embarrassed and really harsh on myself. I let the opinions of others affect me for way too long, not wanting to make anyone mad at me.


Now it’s been about 5 years since then and I've gone from victim to survivor to now winner. It was a journey for sure. I’m still learning and growing as I go and now I'm helping other moms remember who they are and give them hope, encouragement and inspiration.  


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My Story

 

Ever since I was a young child, I was always very moody.  Considered ultra sensitive, my anxiety was always through the roof.  As a young adult I got therapy and took prescription drugs which I thought would help.  I even had an as needed anxiety medication I had a panic attack.to keep on me just in case. I just wanted to feel like myself again.I tried different medication and therapists, hypnotherapy, whatever I could find.  When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I decided to stop all medications, even down to over the counter to protect my baby. I liked not taking a bunch of pills daily but I didn’t feel like I was getting any better.  Everyday I put on a face so everyone around me would believe everything was okay when I knew I clearly wasn’t. 


I always clung to a Higher Power for protection and guidance and my faith carried me through many years of uncertainty and very high stress. I was unhappy in my relationships, my job, and more. I felt like my whole life needed a makeover but I had no idea where to even start. One day this lady came into the store where I worked and she shared a new way of thinking.


Now I’m so much happier and feel a million times better overall. My faith in the Universe/Higher Power/God/Spirit grows more and more each day.I am working on my health and wellness and my life has changed drastically. I gained confidence in myself to leave bad relationships, left a job and found a better one (or two).  Most of all I see my dream life vision coming together slowly, yet surely. I’m so excited to help others do the same.I have an amazing support group of awesome women all working together to achieve our dreams. I see that the power of positivity and love is contagious and I’m happy I can share that with the world.  Of course I still have ups and downs but now I have tools to help myself and others that can relate.


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